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Self Love ~ Why we need it

Let’s Talk About Self-Love…

In preparation for my Self-Love mini retreat, I googled “self-love synonyms” the other day and was appalled at what came up on my screen : words such as “vain”, egotistical”, "self-centered” and “stuck-up”came up first in the search results, way ahead of the positive definitions, quotes and affirmations. Wow, really ? I thought we were past that ... I guess it can be easy to forget for someone like me who is immersed in the yoga and wellness world, but the truth is that, for a lot of us, the concept and term “self-love” is still, whether we are consciously aware of it or not, a taboo.

We have all heard preconceptions such as “loving yourself and taking time for yourself is selfish” or been told - implicitly or not - “how can you miss precious time with your kids to reconnect with yourself for a day/an afternoon/ an hour?”. Most often though, I’ve noticed that the negative, limiting beliefs we hear come from our own ego, our “mean girl” so to speak. Don’t get me wrong, I’m not saying you’re weak for having these thoughts or letting them affect you. You are simply human. I used to HATE myself. I used to say - and, worst, BELIEVE- things like: I’m ugly, I’m dumb, I will never find the right partner, professional calling, my body isn’t capable of carrying to term a healthy pregnancy, and even if it did, I would be a bad mom. Heavy, right ?

Listen up my friends: what I can tell you with 100% certainty is that we were not made to suffer.

We are here on this planet, in this lifetime to thrive, work our light, give, receive, and mostly, we are here to LOVE and BE LOVED, and that includes giving and receiving our own love too. Here is another thing I know for sure, because I have experienced it : CHANGE IS POSSIBLE. It won’t always be easy. In fact, at times it will suck and it will feel painful. However, I don’t know a single person who did this work and regrets it. My Friend, it is up to YOU to get curious, notice and take responsibility for the way you treat yourself. Your words, feelings, intentions and actions, the way you treat your body through movement or lack thereof, what you take in in the form of food, substances you ingest or put on your skin, information you absorb through conversations with others or through media and social