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Resolutions vs Intentions and why we set them

Have you ever said at the start of a new year my resolution(s) are…

“I want to lose X pounds”

“I want a new job” “I am going to be nicer to my kids”

“I want to travel to X country”

And the list can go on and on…What usually happened? How often did you stick with your resolutions? For most of us that answer is probably…I lasted 2 weeks (if you were lucky!). Why do we set resolutions that we don’t stick with?

Let’s first start with why we want to set resolutions. We identify that something is broken and needs to change and rather than asking ourselves why it’s broken (if you want to loose weight, what is causing you to gain weight, if you want a new job, what’s wrong with the one you have?), we assume that we need to find something new to help fix it. We set out on tedious exercise routines that exhaust our bodies, and look for jobs that are probably exactly the same as the one we have now, it just seems better because it’s not the current one we have (trust me on this one, it doesn’t turn out well).